The power of behavioural flexibility

Hello Life Loungers

Do you want a place at the next Life Lounge on Thurs 13th April – if you have not yet booked your place just simply send me an email. We are delighted to welcome Mindfulness teacher Martin Wilks as our guest presenter.

Perhaps you know the serenity prayer: “Give me the courage to change that which can be changed, the serenity to accept that which cannot, and the wisdom to know the difference”.

Powerful and insightful words. What if you had method for personal development that promoted this kind of behavioural flexibility.

 

Martin will be showing us a model that integrates six core processes to optimise flexibility. They help us change our behaviour so we can live our lives with purpose and meaning, and in line with our values.

 

Martin will introduce to the 6 core processes via ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Training) – an integration of Mindfulness and CBT which is more than the sum of its parts. This will be a taster ahead of a two-day experiential introduction workshop in Ipswich in the autumn.

 

Simply email to book your place:  coaching@innerconfidenceforwomen.co.uk

 

April 13th 7 – 9 pm at Quay Place (drinks available from 6.45 for a £1 donation to Suffolk Mind). £10 on the door

 

Best wishes from The Life Lounge Team

 

Simple, useful and a quick readThree types of mindful attention and 9 areas of application in daily life | Dr Patrick Gwyer | Pulse | LinkedIn

Source: Three types of mindful attention and 9 areas of application in daily life | Dr Patrick Gwyer | Pulse | LinkedIn

The Place Beyond Hope and Fear « The Berkana Institute

This is a great article; especially for those for whom the “dashing” of hope feels exhausting

Source: The Place Beyond Hope and Fear « The Berkana Institute

Do Mindful People Have a Stronger Sense of Self? | Greater Good

An interesting idea to explore “in person” ?

Mindful people might be happier because they have a better idea of who they are, suggests a new study.

Source: Do Mindful People Have a Stronger Sense of Self? | Greater Good

Our next Day retreat for Mindfulness Practitioners

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“My old friend the Blues” ?

 

By the time you read this the media created event known as “Blue Monday” will have passed. My Ipswich-based eight week mindfulness course will have started one week later (Jan 23 – still places, hurry!); I am hopeful that in most cases anyone on my course who might be vulnerable to the winter blues will discover new ways of handling it this year.

But for any readers out there, (not on my course) who have noticed a seasonal tendency to become low in spirits at this time of year, let me share a few suggestions?

First of all, notice it. NOTICING it, rather than BEING it … Well that’s a different matter. We call that “accessing the observer self” – and there are a number of names we could give to this elusive concept. But it’s less about describing the viewpoint, more about being in it, experiencing is as an object/process in experience rather than being ‘subjected’ to it!

Having noticed it, perhaps the very first action to take could be described as “attitudinal” – for many people who suffer with repeated episodes of depression one of the first “accelerators” of the downward spiral of negative thinking is the thought “what’s wrong with me?” Rather than jumping immediately into an inner attitude of self criticism, can we turn towards ourselves with kindness, and inner friendliness even towards this seasonal phenomenon “my old friend the blues”?

Yes, I know that may seem odd – but just how has self-criticism helped in the past?

With the attitude of self kindness comes the potential for self-care. The recently described “seasonal adjustment disorder, (SAD)“ has helped with this. It seems it’s now recognised that some people are particularly vulnerable to the times of shorter daylight. And the opposite is true – we all know how long, summer sun filled days lift our spirits, particularly whilst on holiday. But how far away that seems in early February! With self kindness, though, we can remember to make self-care a priority.
Just a couple of days back for example – perusing my long list of “oughts, shoulds and have to’s” – I was on the edge of feeling overwhelmed when I noticed the beams of light from the low winter sun in the sky and a promising patch of blue sky between grey clouds. A ten minute sit facing the sun, just soaking it up and doing very little else other than appreciate, and I was ready to re-engage with my list with considerably more confidence.

And there’s solid science behind it; low vitamin D results in a variety of complex effects on the body and mind. Sunshine helps metabolise elements of our food intake to supplement Vit D levels. You might consider checking with your GP about your Vit D levels and take a supplement if that is indicated?

Regarding light levels – the good news of course is that it gets lighter every day now until midsummer. As ever, the experiences of life are always changing. There are other things that an attitude of self-kindness can point us towards. No space here to speak more about them – over to you, notice, and then to do the kind thing for the person who’s being visited by “my old friend the blues”.

Next 8 week mindfulness course in Ipswich will start after Easter. Do give me a ring if you want to talk about this, or any of the other services that I offer.

Beyond Language

My friends in the ACT learning community will appreciate this, I think?

Finding freedom through thoughts and words

Source: Beyond Language

Emotional Alchemy – Lion’s Roar

Here’s a very recent excerpt from a book by a mindfulness informed pychotherapist that explains what a powerful combination mindfulness and psychotherapy makes

Tara Bennett-Goleman describes how the transforming power of mindfulness can be applied to our painful emotional patterns.

Source: Emotional Alchemy – Lion’s Roar

A Taste of Mindfulness: info/intro to our Jan 17 8 week mindfulness course Tickets, Fri, Jan 13, 2017 at 5:00 PM | Eventbrite – in Ipswich soon, hope you can make it?

 

 

A free taster event giving offering information, question time and a goodly taste of guided experiential mindfulness practices.

Source: A Taste of Mindfulness: info/intro to our Jan 17 8 week mindfulness course Tickets, Fri, Jan 13, 2017 at 5:00 PM | Eventbrite

Here’s the third article – from a pioneering mindfulness teacher Love and Liberation: An interview with Thich Nhat Hanh – Lion’s Roar

Thich Nhat Hanh on true love, the benefits of suffering, and insight that will set you free. He says he teaches original Buddhism with a Mahayana spirit.

Source: Love and Liberation: An interview with Thich Nhat Hanh – Lion’s Roar